Wednesday, August 27, 2008

MIL Drama Update

Thanks so much for your support. I took a chance by posting about my MIL and you guys were so kind and supportive. I was surprised to see so many of you have the same problems/situations as I do with MIL's. It's amazing. I guess I should say 'People' are amazing.

I've been seriously contemplating writing her a letter and giving her 'my side' of the story. It wouldn't be used as a means for getting to go off on her (though that would be nice) but just to respond to all of the accusations, etc, that she made while on the phone with me. I felt somewhat blind-sided by what she did. But as I continue to mull over this whole drama in my head I am coming to the conclusion of not doing anything. I know it won't do any good. That wasn't the reason for doing it. It was to be able to respond, give my 2 cents if you will. But I think it will just make me madder in the end. It will just rehash more shit that doesn't need to be rehashed. Let her be the fool who opens her mouth. For a change, I'll be the one to be quiet. And I'm not a quiet person.

I think it will just be easier to let this die. Of course it will be filed away in my mental Rolodex and the next time I am sending out handmade cards with pics of the kids on them, or a cute email that I could share about something my kids did, I'll just bypass her. This is so against my fiber, but I must do it in order to keep myself from getting hurt. I must keep a barrier up. Don't get me wrong. They'll still get the typical birthday cards and presents and holidays will be recognized, but nothing extra. These people are my husband's parents, not mine. We will never see eye-t0-eye and the quicker that I learn to keep them at a distance, the better off I am.

It pains me!

By the way, I do have some blogger awards that have been given to me and I'll attach them in a separate post. Thanks so much for reading, commenting and supporting. It's nice to know that I'm not alone and not crazy..........well at least not alone...the crazy part is yet to be determined!

Mad About Plaid Girl


Mrs. Newlywed said...

We may have the same mother-in-law.

Not kidding. I completely understand your pain...completely.

Mojito Maven said...

Were our mother-in-laws separated at birth????????????

i've only been married 3 months and let me tell you, the year leading up to our wedding was HELL and now that it's over guess how many times I've even attempted to ahve a relationship with my MIL? just won't happen. I have to protect me first.

Luckily Mr. Mojito also agrees that his mother is out of control so at least I have a strong support system!

Mona said...

Write the letter and vent, just do NOT mail it. It will make YOU feel better. Then let it go. Otherwise it's like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. All the pent up stuff will eat at you not her. Don't allow her to make you become bitter. And trust me when I say, you are not alone in the MIL drama department. Hang in there!

Lipstick said...

Hey Plaid, I'm sorry you have been having MIL drama. Family drama really sucks.

Preppy Lizard said...

Good for you. I have finally learned that I have to do the same thing with my in-laws.

Jillian, Inc. said...

Sometimes indifference is the best choice. I know it's hard though! I don't see a direct email address on your profile page but you can email me directly at jillianinc at yahoo dot com and I'll be happy to give you my 2 cents on living in the ATL area.

A Belle and her Beau said...

I am a first time visitor to your blog and I really have enjoyed reading it ... even though your current situation isn't so joyous! At least they live 6 hours away :) I hate that you are going through this though. Have a good, long weekend.