tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post5899178647964942606..comments2023-10-31T08:37:00.953-04:00Comments on Mad About Plaid Girl: A Bit Deeper...Mad About Plaid Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07715500017425149040noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-22274410991988984002008-09-03T15:26:00.000-04:002008-09-03T15:26:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry, I feel your pain...I'm also having i...I'm so sorry, I feel your pain...I'm also having in-law problems. The sad thing is we moved to where we are to be near them. BIG mistake. I am counting the days until we can get out of here. I agree with you - it probably wouldn't make any difference if you talked to her.<BR/>I'll keep you in my prayers and just know you're not the only one out there!Surf Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08934905597302848116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-54117942749957567212008-08-31T20:40:00.000-04:002008-08-31T20:40:00.000-04:00Ugh -- this is so hard!I agree that your MIL could...Ugh -- this is so hard!<BR/><BR/>I agree that your MIL could have found a better way to say "I wish we could spend more time with you." <BR/><BR/>It doesn't sound like you're "using" anyone -- and I'm sorry she laid this on you!! <BR/><BR/>No advice...just keep doing the right thing and know that it's not you...Llama Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07354122767693691797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-50209059463133880592008-08-31T20:38:00.000-04:002008-08-31T20:38:00.000-04:00Do they ever take the time to visit you all ALONE!...Do they ever take the time to visit you all ALONE! If they want one on one then they need to come visit you. I am always amazed at how some MIL and FIL can be. As a person whose both parents are deceased and never met my children, my parents would want my CHILDREN there any time, they probably wouldn't care if I showed up. It is NOT about them, they sSHOULD WANT to spend time with their grandchildren.. You can't make people change, she will think you are being overly sensitive and blowing the whole thing out of proportion, which we know you are NOT!! Just be cool as a cucumber with her and stay with SIL and when she asks why you are not staying with them say because we don't want you to feel USED!! BEATCH!!!!!!!!!!!!just ask bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17278712539196907589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-87704193531994395912008-08-29T21:30:00.000-04:002008-08-29T21:30:00.000-04:00Bless your heart! That is ridiculous! That was a v...Bless your heart! That is ridiculous! That was a very hurtful thing for your MIL to say. It is amazing what people will say when they don't get their way! I hope things improve and I hate that you now have "conditions" for visiting!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17104027246525088651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-72060691340906184962008-08-28T09:58:00.000-04:002008-08-28T09:58:00.000-04:00I grew up in a large family (I am the oldest of 7 ...I grew up in a large family (I am the oldest of 7 siblings). I am used to people just stopping by. My parent's love it even now when people just stop by or stay with them. In fact yesterday a friend and I brought two 2 yr old over to my parent's and my parent's wanted us to stay for quite a while. We had parked our cars at their place to be closer to the train station (Ok we were using them). I understand MIL issues. I have them in a sense as well. There isn't enough room to voice it all. I have just usually held my tongue while she has made statements to me about things. I just try to remember that this is hubby's mother and I love him so I will respect her to a degree but I am also my own person and have my own opinion.Suburban prephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18395691728192716148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-81570222252231441072008-08-26T21:58:00.000-04:002008-08-26T21:58:00.000-04:00Wow...I feel for you! My family is very much like ...Wow...I feel for you! My family is very much like yours...their home is my home...my home is theirs. Come and stay, save money on a hotel and visit when we can.<BR/>I'm with Clemsongirl and would have lots to say with lots of fbombs...not very lady like I know...but that is too much! Glad the hubby put some stipulations out there though and didn't just agree with the folks.Cashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13993677616055961328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-9601039741043558662008-08-26T11:48:00.000-04:002008-08-26T11:48:00.000-04:00I feel for you....Check my blog...there is somethi...I feel for you....<BR/><BR/>Check my blog...there is something for you!!!Readings, Recipes and Rambleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07664561022178073566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-43441374874410006602008-08-25T22:06:00.000-04:002008-08-25T22:06:00.000-04:00My MIl feels we use her for baby sitting. But has ...My MIl feels we use her for baby sitting. But has a fit that we "always" leave the boys with Nana Judy. I have to "use" her again in October and I am dreading having to ask. <BR/><BR/>We aren't allowed to leave the IL's during a visit unless its to an "approved" family member's home. We are taking her time away from her. Like I want to sit around and watch sports or John Wayne all day.Hair Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08862976374101697484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-68821900704616098562008-08-25T19:37:00.000-04:002008-08-25T19:37:00.000-04:00we shall discuss this in person in a couple of wee...we shall discuss this in person in a couple of weeks...i just can't type what i want to say...<BR/><BR/>just imagine...then add about 84,000 fbombs...<BR/><BR/>i hear you sister, i hear youclemsongirlandthecoachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937440349642139447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-54834711825870746952008-08-25T17:37:00.000-04:002008-08-25T17:37:00.000-04:00I'm right there with you. I don't understand why t...I'm right there with you. I don't understand why the "out-laws" who are suppose to be "family" can't just be polite and get along! If for no other reason than to respect their son's choices. That doesn't mean they have to agree with his choices. I'm just saying. I'll pray for you.Monahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01954350958586337442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-72378930998858520352008-08-25T16:55:00.000-04:002008-08-25T16:55:00.000-04:00Oh, I've been there too. My MIL once blasted us b...Oh, I've been there too. My MIL once blasted us because she felt like we just breezed in and breezed out whenever we wanted. My extended family lives in the vicinity of her, so we always always split up the visit. When she went on her rampage, I politely told her that she sees her son way more now that I'm in the picture than before, so that should make her happy.<BR/><BR/>Whatever. After six years I just don't care. She should just be happy that we stay with her. My grandmother or sister would much rather me stay with them, but we choose to stay with her. Shouldn't that make her happy????!!! :)KKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11400839772626390049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-61003962751886630032008-08-25T16:39:00.000-04:002008-08-25T16:39:00.000-04:00I can so relate to what you are going through. An...I can so relate to what you are going through. And, just this week I heard the same thing with a twist. My inlaws only visit us once a year, usually around our twins' birthday in October. They live 6 hours away and usually come for 3 days. We always have a party, inviting my own "large" family and a few friends. My SIL told us that MIL refuses to come down to visit us if we are going to have other people there for the party. She wants it to be just about their family. NFW!!!<BR/><BR/>So, we are going to have our party as planned. We're just going to wish them on their merry way the morning of the party. :)<BR/><BR/>Hang in there!!!Magshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16943944132576611470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755437589862772719.post-39901946329013529202008-08-25T15:57:00.000-04:002008-08-25T15:57:00.000-04:00Gosh. Feel for you. These things are so hard. I...Gosh. Feel for you. These things are so hard. I speak only from experience - let a little time pass before you talk to your MIL. I'd venture to say just let it go, mostly for your sake and your hubby's. I've spoken up way too many times in situations like this and didn't get the desired outcome and wished I'd just kept my mouth shut. (And by the way I rarely give advice, so take it with a grain of salt...ha!). I'm on facebook, too...Jill Grice Norwood if you want to be "friends!"Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786838392389718536noreply@blogger.com